Part one

this is an interesting feedback on how our relationships with people around are and how you interact with people in different levels. i saw a donut. yes, i found that i have 2 different circles (i placed 1-9 and A-T, and drew a circle based on the number and letters). a small one is made with numbers and bigger one is made with alphabets. i found that i have a big gap between my "very-close" relationships and "somewhat-close" relationships. however, i thought somehow that it is the ideal of everyone's social relationship. it is nearly impossible to make many close friends. people do not have enough time to be very very close with every single person around them. in addition, if i had many close friends, that implicates that the relationship in "very close" does not mean much. because i have few people who are very very close to me, i see more value into it. the roles in my "very close" are only family, 2 best friends, and a few very good friends. those people are whom i fully open my mind with, ask advice from or give advice to, and share a lot of my value with. on the other hand, people i listed in "somewhere close" are those who i see and chat or do school work with. this does not mean i do not like them. i like them. however, i have not talked enough to know more about them and vise versa. in ordr to develp these relationships, i need to self-disclose and spend more time with each other. this is difficult as i said that people have time limited, therefore we cannot or need to make many close friends. the ways i communicate with "very close" are mainly F2F communication and cellphone when needed, except my parents, sister, and best friend in Japan. I usually talk with them via email. I send emails to their cellphone and they send me back to my hotmail. my family do not use facebook of course, and my best friend in japan does not use facebook either, because it is not popular in Japan. instead, there is a popluar social networking website called "mixi" which allows you to access it through cellphones. cellphones in Japan is the most popular communication method. the way contact with "somewhere close" is basically on facebook becaue we do not have to or want to spend so much and effort to see each other. moreover, having a facebook account and keep them in contacts is very easieer to adjust. another thing i realized through this relationship analysis is that i don not have many very close friends is because i have been lived in 4 different counties such as Japan, Hong Kong, Bahrain, and Canada. although i make close friends, this relatioionship does not last for so long because move to another place. i guess every one has just a few close flose friends. the people i can constantly and tightly contact or hang out with are regarded as my "very close".

it is good enough to have only a couple of bestfriends rather than many many "somewhere close" friends.